How To Flirt

There isn’t just an art to flirting—there’s a science! Use these proven methods to charm and seduce.

To complete this How-To you will need:

A positive attitude

A healthy dose of self-confidence

Step 1: Smile

Begin with a bright smile—one that comes from your eyes as well as your lips.

Step 2: Say hello & ask question

Say hello and then ask a question that requires more than a “yes” or “no” answer. For example, “What do you think of the band?” or “Where are we, anyway?”

Tip: Forget cheesy pick-up lines. According to one study, a simple “Hi” is the most successful opening line.

Step 3: Keep conversation light

Keep the conversation light. The object is to banter, not get bogged down in a serious discussion.

Step 4: Fiddle a little

Fiddle a little—with your hair, your jewelry, your clothing. People do this subconsciously when they are attracted to someone. Doing it intentionally excites the other person by subliminally telegraphing your interest.

Step 5: Be funny

Put a fun spin on whatever you say. Everyone is attracted to a person with a good sense of humor.

Tip: Don’t break eye contact, unless the person is showing you something. Someone who can’t take their eyes off you is very intriguing.

Step 6: Lean in

Lean in as the person talks. It will make him or her feel fascinating—and find you fascinating in return.

Tip: Not sure the person you’re flirting with is interested? Look at his or her feet. If they’re pointing in your direction, you’re scoring!

Step 7: Touch person lightly

Touch the person lightly on his arm or hand to create a little sexual tension. Just keep it above the belt!

Step 8: Give hug or peck

When it’s time to go, give a brief hug or a peck on the cheek to convey warmth and reinforce your interest. Happy flirting!

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